Understanding your responsibilities is not a burden

I believe that this is the prerequisite of a marriage. During the pre-married phase of your life, you are your parents’ responsibility. You came into this world where you have seen an already built home. Remember that this home full of love, care, and affection was not always like this. Your mom and dad had worked on it. Now as you are getting married, you have to make such a home. You are the pillars of a new family. Every human being has a purpose in this world and responsibilities lead you towards that purpose. Remember where there is no purpose in life, there is darkness, there is hopelessness and there is meaninglessness. All the thing that makes life happy and meaningful seems to be difficult but they are beneficial in the long run. For example, doing exercise regularly makes you fit and healthy but it is not easy to be consistent in exercising. However, it dramatically improves your mental and physical health in the long run. The point here is that when you get married, prepare yourself for the responsibilities you are going to encounter. Take them as a challenge, as one of the purposes of your life.

Don’t take house chores and child upbringing as a punishment

Times have changed a lot now. Many of those middle-class families now have maids for their house chores and nannies for their children. However, if they are not full-time or if some family can not afford it in some cases people do not like to have nannies for their kids. The wives in such cases complain all the line about it. This is all the game of the mind. You own your body you love to take care of yourself. You always want to look presentable, cleaning yourself or washing your hair and body never makes you feel exhausted, tired, or bored. Then why do you feel bad cleaning the house you live in? this is because you have never owned that house as you have owned yourself. It is sometimes tiring and too much but you can get the help of your partner or you can manage it the other way never get hard on yourself if the house is a mess one day let it be. Don’t be bothered by it too much. Do it the next day when you feel like doing it. Try to make it fun play any music in the background you would love to listen to or make any phone call while you do all the household chores.

Work on yourself

Believe it or not, this is the most therapeutic thing for a woman. Working on yourself means both physically and emotionally. Many of the women are emotionally weak that’s why their marriage faces a bit of struggle. Being emotionally strong makes your life very easy. Secondly, make your mind fresh and remain calm. Always bear one thing in mind that no-one else is going to make you happy other than you

As Milton says, “Mind has its own place and in itself you can make a hell of heaven, a heaven of hell” (Milton, Paradise Lost). So, try to meditate, do yoga, and whatever that makes you feel relaxed and happy. Because you can give happiness only when you are happy. After being mentally strong confident and contented, now it’s time to work on your physical appearance. Most people say that appearance or looks does not matter but I think this is not true. Although beauty is not the primary criterion to judge a person but is an addon. It is like cream on milk, like the cherry on the cake. Everyone wants to look attractive. Your spouse also wants the same from you. Moreover, when you follow the skincare routine make your hair more often, and dress nicely. You will feel confident and your partner will also be pleased.

Try to become financially independent

Many women want to be financially independent and when they can’t, they will end up getting depressed. No doubt, economic stability is necessary according to the present needs and it also gives you a sense of belonging and identity. It is, however, not a matter of life and death. You are responsible for the bread and butter of your family. Try your best to make some secondary source of income. If you are successful, it is well and good If not, it is fine even then because you have an entire family to look after. You are raising a new generation you have a bigger responsibility.